Why I Disappeared and Stopped Blogging for Years

Post Updated: December 19, 2023

I knew I made a mistake when I stopped blogging because I let the opinions and lack of support from others stop me from what I wanted to do.

When you are passionate about something, it sparks a flame in your heart.

That’s me with blogging, I simply love to write and inspire others with my stories.

Sure I have other passions that are close to my heart, but for me, blogging is unique and different. Something that I felt nobody could take away from me.

Keep reading for why I disappeared and stopped blogging.

The Start of My Blogging Journey

I started my blogging journey on a free version of WordPress. Just a small collection of poorly written posts.

But man did I think I was a seasoned author!

Once I discovered that I could monetize my blog, I upgraded to a self-hosted platform on Bluehost.

In May of 2018, my new blog went live!

I counted down the days, there was no way you didn’t know about it, I posted about it everyday!

At the time, I didn’t know anyone personally blogging and I liked it that way.

Weeks later, friends I went to high school with were now beginning their “blogging journeys” too.

I wasn’t surprised, just annoyed because it came out of the blue. 

Remember when everyone wanted to be a rapper?

This was the new trend, everybody wanted to be a blogger.

Deep down, it ate away at me because now, it was no longer a thing to call my own. 

To me, it was now a competition to see who was going to be the more successful blogger.

Everyone lost their minds when these new bloggers came out, but when I launched, I didn’t receive half the support.

As soon as my blog posts went live, I always made sure to share the news on every social media platform.

Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, even Snapchat!

I set up an email list for people to get my blogs emailed directly to them! It doesn’t get any easier than that.

So, if I’m doing everything right, why aren’t people supporting me too?

Why was it so hard to find support?!

My blogger friends formed their own little circle of support.

Now, let me stop here for a moment and say that having a circle of support is EXACTLY what you should have no matter what it is you are doing.

So were they wrong for doing that? No, not at all. I just felt excluded from it.

I wanted them to WILLINGLY share my content and support me. After all, they were MY friends too!

I am always my biggest fan, (rightfully so!), but it was exhausting being the only one who cared about my content. 

The few times they did share something of mine, it didn’t feel genuine.

To me, it felt like they were thinking “Ugh let me share this so she will shut up.”

Could I have been looking into it too much? Maybe.

But you can absolutely sense people’s energy and to me, they didn’t care.

Eventually I got tired of being genuine and I stopped engaging with their posts and content all together.

I truly didn’t feel like I was getting back HALF of the support that I was giving.

You’re not supposed to beg people for support and I wasn’t going to anymore so this was going to be a very lonely journey.

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I was Completely drained and eventually stopped blogging

At this point, I am angry, annoyed, and maybe even envious.

Am I overreacting? I don’t think so.

We all want to feel worthy and important when we are trying to make it.

For me it’s always felt like a struggle to get support from friends and I honestly never understood why.

Was it their own jealousy of my potential? Or was it something else?

One of my friends even told me that my blog was depressing to read!

Wow! My personal experiences are depressing to you?! I’m sorry my life isn’t as exciting as YOU want it to be!

That one really hit me hard.

I really started questioning if I was good enough.

Maybe people don’t actually want to listen to what I have to say.

My life was not exciting by their definition, but I also didn’t want to be pitied for sharing the dark moments of my life.

The whole point of me sharing my stories was to inspire others and make them feel like they weren’t alone.

I really started to believe that maybe I’m not meant to be a blogger and I should look into doing something else.

At this point, I am drained of ALL energy and desire to write.

So what do I do?

Unfortunately, I stopped blogging and I never wrote another post for years.

I allowed the opinions of others to influence MY decision to do something that I absolutely love!

I allowed the lack of support from people I desperately wanted it from to stop me from being the greatest blogger I can be!

All because of somebody else’s opinion of me.

I’m still waiting for that moment where the desire sparks up again and I feel inspired to write.

Where Are we today

Years went by and I never wrote any new blog posts, despite all the stories I wanted to share.

This post was originally written in 2018. It wasn’t until 2022 that I started writing again.

As of today in 2023, I have indeed started writing again.

And let me tell you, it is one of the best feelings in the world doing something you love once again.

I already put so much time, money and effort into creating my website I wasn’t about to let it go to waste!

Whenever I get into a slump again, I try to remember why I started in the first place.

So here’s my message to you if you are a blogger and have either stopped blogging or are hesitant to start….

Why would you let other people decide for you if you are meant to be a blogger?!

There are 7 billion people in this world to support you and you’re worried about the 7 nobodies from your hometown?!

Let that sink in.

I hope you enjoyed my story on why I stopped blogging.

If you are a blogger and have lost your flame as well, I want you to know that you are not alone! take the time you need and then get back to writing!